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Understanding French also means understanding its codes.
Speaking a language is not only about choosing the right words. It is also about understanding how you address someone, what you can say in a given context, what goes unsaid, and how a message may land.
In my lessons, these questions find their place naturally, as soon as something the student has actually lived through calls for them.
The principle: work on the language in its context
A message can be grammatically correct and still come across as too blunt, too formal, or simply unusual in a given situation.
We usually work on those nuances from very concrete situations: writing to a colleague, speaking to a manager, meeting the parents of one of their child's classmates, sitting down to lunch, or making sense of a joking remark.
We can then look at the register in use, the choice between « tu » and « vous », certain expressions, the intonation, or what stays implicit in the conversation.
The aim is to give the student more bearings, so they can read the situations they meet and choose for themselves how they want to express things.
What it looks like in the room
- We start from real situations. A conversation, an email, or something the student has just lived through can become the material for a lesson.
- We look at several ways of saying the same thing. We look at what changes with the relationship between the people, the context, or the degree of formality.
- We also work on what is heard. Intonation, rhythm and the way a sentence is phrased can carry as much meaning as the words themselves.
- We put usage back into its context. Ways of communicating vary with people, generations, professional settings and situations. I offer bearings, not absolute rules.
What a student takes from it
This training brought real progress, both in the language and in the culture. Before it, I hesitated to speak French. Angelina helped me express myself far more easily.
Vishnu, Avionics HMI Developer and ORAMA Bench Manager, Ascendance Flight TechnologiesTranslated from French
One intention, several ways of phrasing it
Situation
Asking a colleague to make changes to a document.
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« Modifie ce document avant demain. »
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« Tu pourrais modifier ce document avant demain ? »
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« Est-ce que tu aurais le temps de modifier ce document avant demain ? »
All three sentences make the request, but they do not produce quite the same effect.
In the lesson we can look at those differences, then look for the phrasing that best fits the relationship between the people, the situation, and the student's own personality.
The idea is to give them several options, and the bearings they need to choose the one that suits them.
Understanding what is not always said
A good part of communication also runs on what is left implicit.
In some situations, a « on verra », a « pourquoi pas » or a « ça risque d'être compliqué » can call for a good deal more interpretation than its literal meaning.
In the same way, humour, cultural references or certain conversational habits can make an exchange hard to follow even when every word is understood.
When those situations come up, we take the time to unpack them together: what was said, the context, the possible readings of it, and the ways of answering.
Keeping your own way of speaking
Understanding the codes of a language does not mean trying to reproduce one single way of speaking or behaving.
What I want above all is for my students to recognise the usage they meet, to understand how it may be received, and to have several ways of responding available to them.
Everyone keeps their accent, their history, their personality and their own way of communicating.
The aim is to gain understanding, and freedom, in the exchanges themselves.
The lesson plans also show how these cultural dimensions can enter a lesson: a coffee break, a first day in a new team, an appointment, or an everyday exchange.
See the lesson plans